Choosing Joy Over Fear | Kinesiology for Women
As the sun sinks into the night sky, I’ve been giving myself permission to look back at what 2025 asked of me.
It wasn’t an easy year. It stretched me in ways I didn’t expect. It quietly and sometimes loudly showed me where fear still lived in my body.
Fear of getting it wrong.
Fear of being seen.
Fear of choosing myself fully.
Fear of slowing down when the world tells you to push harder.
Fear of trusting my inner knowing when logic wants proof.
There were moments I played small. I hesitated. At times I knew the next step, felt it clearly in my body… and stayed still anyway. And I don’t say that with shame. I say it with compassion. Because fear isn’t failure. Fear is information. It shows us where something matters. Where growth is waiting. Where our nervous system is asking for safety before it can move.
Living near the beach has a way of teaching you this. As I walk and watch the light soften and the waves keep moving no matter what, something landed clearly for me…I don’t want to live from fear anymore. Not quietly. Not politely. Not “just enough” to stay comfortable.
I’m choosing joy.
Not the loud, performative kind that demands constant positivity. But the steady, embodied joy that comes from being in motion. The kind that lives in your body, not just your head. The kind that grows when you choose yourself even when it feels uncomfortable. The joy that comes when you are in the present moment.
I’m choosing action.
Small, grounded, aligned steps forward that includes movement — in my body, in my work, in my life. Because stagnation costs more than courage ever will.
And stagnation is something I see again and again in my work through kinesiology. As women, teens and children step into my Sydney clinic I see the tension in their bodies due to holding it all together, holding on, trying to control. I hear it in their voice as it quivers gently when I ask them “How are YOU doing?” and I feel it sitting heavily in their energy.
They feel the pull toward something more spacious, more alive, more honest. They sense there’s another way to live; with less tension, less overwhelm, less self-abandonment, yet they stay frozen because fear feels safer than change.
And I get it.
When your nervous system has learned that staying small keeps you safe, movement can feel threatening. When your body has stored years of responsibility, emotional load, and “being the strong one,” choosing yourself can feel selfish rather than necessary.
But safety isn’t found in staying still. Safety is found in learning how to regulate your nervous system. In softening your body out of survival mode. In having support as you take steps forward, instead of forcing yourself through willpower alone.
This is where kinesiology does its deepest work.
Kinesiology isn’t about fixing you. It’s about learning how to listen to your body. Gently identifying where stress, emotions, and beliefs are being held and helping your system release what it no longer needs to carry…when IT and you are ready. Not when your:
Your parents tell you snap out of it
Your therapist says its time to make the changes
Your ego says constant mean things to your heart and soul to guilt you into action
No…Your nervous system needs to feel safe enough to remember that movement forward in your life is possible because you trust yourself again. When your nervous system feels safer, choice becomes easier. Movement becomes possible. Joy becomes sustainable.
This isn’t about dramatic change overnight. It’s about coming back into relationship with yourself. Trusting your body again. Letting your inner knowing lead instead of fear and overthinking. And this is easier when we stand in the present moment rather than distracting ourselves with the stories and regrets of the past or the unknown of the future.
And here’s what I know to be true:
This isn’t just my story. If something in this reflection mirrors your own life…the heaviness, the hesitation, the quiet knowing that you’re meant for more…I want you to hear this clearly:
You’re not broken.
You’re not lazy.
You’re not failing.
Your system is doing exactly what it learned to do to keep you safe. And it can learn something new and rewire your brain and subconscious belief system with new ways of being and doing….once your nervous system feels safe.
This is the work I hold space for at Zode Kinesiology, in my women circles, and during Cuppa Chat online monthly gathering:
For you.
For your nervous system.
For your emotional wellbeing.
For your family; because when one woman regulates, the whole family feels it.
If you’re ready to step out of fear and into a steadier, present moment, more joyful way of living, you don’t have to do it alone. Sometimes all it takes is one honest step toward yourself in a moment of space and safety to realise what that “missing piece” is and how to return to it.
So I’ll leave you with this question: What is one honest step you’re willing to take to come home to you?
And remember — I’m here when you’re ready. ✨